Making “ME” Time

Believe it or not, one of the things that tops people’s lists when it comes to what they wish they had more of….is “me time”.  How often have you had this same thought?  Sometimes we view taking time for ourselves as a waste of time or invaluable.  We prioritize things like our children, our partner, our career….all before ourselves.  If they are all worthy of your attention and time, then so are you.

The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup.  Stress and fatigue can have serious health consequences such as heart attack, high blood pressure, obesity, and stroke.  Mentally it brings on things such as depression, anxiety, insomnia and mood swings.  Just like our bodies need nourishment and rest to function properly, so do our minds.

Ways to schedule yourself in

Decide that you need time for you every day.  It’s normal at first to feel guilty for taking time for yourself.  Once you realize that you will be happier, more rested and less irritable, the decision will be so much easier.  Your well-being sets the tone for the rest of your life.

Finding the “me” time that suits you.  We all like to unwind in different ways.  Start by making a list of different ways you would spend time alone….15 minutes alone, an hour alone, and a whole day alone.  For you it may be quietly reading, indulging in a hot cup of coffee while witting on your porch, meditation and journaling, or enjoying a hobby or past time.  For me, it’s waking at 5am to enjoy my coffee and journal alone.  It’s actually my favorite time of the day.

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Make it a habit.  Once you have decided what it is that you will do for yourself, SCHEDULE it in!  Make it a daily habit, preferably at the same time each day.  Once you have made the commitment, stick to it.  Switching up your indulgence every once in a while is good for you.  Just make “me” time a habit.

Say “no”. Learn to say no to things that do not bring value to your life or make you happy.  Just because someone asks, doesn’t mean you are obligated to say “yes”.  There is nothing selfish in turning down something that does not enrich your life.  Cross off the things in your life that take up extra time….answering emails on your day off, too much time on social media, running to the market every day for dinner instead of planning ahead and only going once a week.  You’ll be surprised how much time you free up!

Benefits of  “me” time

You will be more relaxed.  This characteristic can help you in all relationships.  You will be less irritated with an issue between you and your partner.  That seemingly difficult co-worker will become less of a thorn in your side.  Even your children will seem less needy at times.  Of course you enjoy caring for them, and once you have balance in your life it all becomes more joyful.

Gratitude.  Taking time to “check out” and explore your own thought helps you to become more grateful.  Lack of time alone can actually build up resentment towards other people and situations in your life.  Having time alone helps us create an attitude of gratitude for what and whom we do have.

A healthy balance. “Me” time can greatly reduce stress and anxiety…resulting in better sleep habits, better communication with those in your life, increased energy, and even lower blood pressure.  Depression and anxiety will melt away.

What it all boils down to is you deserve it.  Taking care of you first should be a priority. Stop wishing for more personal time, and start creating the peaceful time you need and are worthy of.  You’ll thank me for it.

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Staying Positive in Any Situation

Have you ever had the kind of morning where everything started WRONG???

  • Your alarm didn’t go off.
  • The coffee maker broke.
  • You get to your car, only to have a flat tire.
  • Your child forgot his lunch.
  • You get a speeding ticket on your way to work.

Trust me, I have been there!  Life is 10% what happens TO you, and 90% how you REACT to it.  Just because things don’t go as planned, doesn’t mean your day is ruined.  When you have a sense of gratitude, these everyday bumps in the road will not define you.

You never know what tomorrow will bring.  Staying in an angry, frustrated state of mind is only wasting your valuable time on this earth.  Enjoy each and every day.

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5 ways to enjoy your day:

SMILE:  Something as simple as a smile can turn your whole day around.  When we smile, the whole world smiles as well.  You smile at someone, they smile back…..This releases the “feel good” chemicals in the brain.

BREATHE:  Stop and take a few deep breaths.   Breath in…..and breath out.  Do this for a few minutes with your eyes closed (if possible).  This is actually a form of meditation and can center your thoughts and calm your mind.

ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS:  Think of something small that brings you joy…a cup of coffee, a latte, a book, talking to your best friend.  DO IT!!!!  Call that friend, buy the latte, read part of the book!  These are the simple things that bring us joy.

GET SOME FRESH AIR:  Take a brisk walk, or enjoy your coffee on the front porch.  Just being in and around fresh air improves our mood and our state of mind.  Sooooo……GET OUT THERE!!!!!

COUNT YOUR MANY BLESSINGS:  Make a list of the things you are grateful for.  Your family, your job, your bed….hahaha!!!!  What ever you are grateful for, write it down.  I actually start and end each day with gratitude.  While having my morning coffee, I list 3 things I am grateful for.  Before bed, I think of 3 things that happened that day that were a blessing.

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