Believe it or not, one of the things that tops people’s lists when it comes to what they wish they had more of….is “me time”. How often have you had this same thought? Sometimes we view taking time for ourselves as a waste of time or invaluable. We prioritize things like our children, our partner, our career….all before ourselves. If they are all worthy of your attention and time, then so are you.
The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Stress and fatigue can have serious health consequences such as heart attack, high blood pressure, obesity, and stroke. Mentally it brings on things such as depression, anxiety, insomnia and mood swings. Just like our bodies need nourishment and rest to function properly, so do our minds.
Ways to schedule yourself in
Decide that you need time for you every day. It’s normal at first to feel guilty for taking time for yourself. Once you realize that you will be happier, more rested and less irritable, the decision will be so much easier. Your well-being sets the tone for the rest of your life.
Finding the “me” time that suits you. We all like to unwind in different ways. Start by making a list of different ways you would spend time alone….15 minutes alone, an hour alone, and a whole day alone. For you it may be quietly reading, indulging in a hot cup of coffee while witting on your porch, meditation and journaling, or enjoying a hobby or past time. For me, it’s waking at 5am to enjoy my coffee and journal alone. It’s actually my favorite time of the day.
Make it a habit. Once you have decided what it is that you will do for yourself, SCHEDULE it in! Make it a daily habit, preferably at the same time each day. Once you have made the commitment, stick to it. Switching up your indulgence every once in a while is good for you. Just make “me” time a habit.
Say “no”. Learn to say no to things that do not bring value to your life or make you happy. Just because someone asks, doesn’t mean you are obligated to say “yes”. There is nothing selfish in turning down something that does not enrich your life. Cross off the things in your life that take up extra time….answering emails on your day off, too much time on social media, running to the market every day for dinner instead of planning ahead and only going once a week. You’ll be surprised how much time you free up!
Benefits of “me” time
You will be more relaxed. This characteristic can help you in all relationships. You will be less irritated with an issue between you and your partner. That seemingly difficult co-worker will become less of a thorn in your side. Even your children will seem less needy at times. Of course you enjoy caring for them, and once you have balance in your life it all becomes more joyful.
Gratitude. Taking time to “check out” and explore your own thought helps you to become more grateful. Lack of time alone can actually build up resentment towards other people and situations in your life. Having time alone helps us create an attitude of gratitude for what and whom we do have.
A healthy balance. “Me” time can greatly reduce stress and anxiety…resulting in better sleep habits, better communication with those in your life, increased energy, and even lower blood pressure. Depression and anxiety will melt away.
What it all boils down to is you deserve it. Taking care of you first should be a priority. Stop wishing for more personal time, and start creating the peaceful time you need and are worthy of. You’ll thank me for it.
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