In chapter 2 of Girl, wash your face , Rachel Hollis talks about all of the things she has “said” she would do….but never did. BOY can I relate!!!!
How many of you have a “Bucket List”? I do! How many things have you actually crossed off of that list? I hope it’s more than I have. My bucket list is beautiful. It is filled with dream vacations, exciting adventures, new lessons and achievements, as well as goals and dreams. THREE…..That is how many things I have crossed off of that list. Sad.
It seems as though in this day and age, life has taught us how to “start over” when we fail. It’s taught us how to get back on the horse after falling off, and ride into the sunset. What it has not taught most of us is HOW TO STAY ON THE HORSE in the first place! We have never really been forced to focus on how to stay strong and push through. Well sister, it’s time for that to change.
The Dreaded Disappointment
When someone disappoints you or lets you down, repetitively, how does that make you feel? Probably pretty crappy…maybe unimportant or even worthless. In turn, when someone always keeps their word, how does THAT make you feel? AMAZING!!! Imagine if you treated yourself this way. How many times have you disappointed YOU? Books you’ve committed to reading and never finished, a new health journey you gave up on (ten or twenty times), a career change that you swore you were making “next year” but never took the leap? We do this because we have conditioned ourselves this way. It has become a pattern.
My dreaded disappointment is my studies towards becoming a Personal Trainer. I bought ALL of the materials in April of 2011. SEVEN years ago! I started studying immediately. One month later I met a man who swept me off my feet. It was a whirlwind love. We were married within three (yes you read that right) months. My studies became a mere blur in my rearview mirror. We went on with our life for a good four years before our marriage fell apart before my eyes. This past January I committed to myself that I would start studying all over again. Guess what? I did! And then I quit, because, well…..life. NO MORE. I AM finishing that certification by the end of 2019. I have made the commitment and I am sticking to it.
Breaking The Pattern
Start with one promise to yourself and break it down into smaller pieces. When you want to give up, because it’s your pattern, ask yourself how good you would feel if you just pushed through. Push past that hump that you are conditioned to stop at. I have committed to breaking my studies down to one chapter or topic per two weeks…..20 minutes per day, five days per week. THAT I can do!
Maybe your goal is to organize your home and pitch out all of the old clutter. That sounds pretty overwhelming! Pick a room. ONE room. Start by tackling a closet in that room one week. The next week the drawers. Slowly, but surely you will begin to see your home decluttering before your very eyes!
This blog was something on my bucket list. I had put it off until “next month” for over a year. I took the leap and I am loving it! I hope you are too. 🙂
Think Before You Commit
Choose ONE goal. One small goal. Tackle ONE drawer. Walk ONE mile. Write ONE paragraph.
Think carefully before you commit. Rachel tells us to “slow down your yes”. Stop and think before you say “yes”. Is this something that makes you happy? Is this something that you truly can accomplish? Does this fit into your life’s goals? If it does, go for it!
Be honest with yourself. Take a look at your own level of commitment. Who or what have you cancelled on within the past few months? Within the past few weeks? How does that feel? You don’t wasn’t to be that person….the one who is know for bailing. Hold yourself accountable to your “yes”.
Now GO….start TODAY!
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